How to manage your family’s finances

First published 19 December 2013 • Updated 13 March 2018

With Christmas only a few days away, Jason Witcombe looks at how to make sure your family avoids a festive financial hangover that carries on well after the New Year.

Think about how much time you spend planning Christmas or organising your summer holiday. Then, consider how long you spend planning your family’s finances. Is there a mismatch here? For most people I’m sure there is.

“Without clear, and shared, aspirations there is a real risk that you look back in 10 years’ time and say: ‘If only we had…’”

It is entirely understandable that many of us are turned off by personal finance and that difficult financial decisions are put off for another day. Reading holiday brochures and decorating the Christmas tree is simply more appealing.

Financial Planning is a six-stage process which is described below. It’s easy to jump into stage five and want to implement things straight away – get a pension set up and sort out your investments – but this would be a mistake. From my experience, it is quite rare for couples to have an honest and open discussion about what they want out of life, both for themselves and for their children.

But without clear, and shared, aspirations there is a real risk that you look back in 10 years’ time and say “If only we had…”

How often do we hear this sort of complaint?

“He/she works too hard and never helps me with the kids – it’s not fair”

“I’m in a job I don’t like, I work too hard and never get to see the kids, but I’m stuck because we need the money – it’s not fair”

“He/she spends too much money – it’s not fair”

“He/she wants to put too much into pensions and investments, but I want a new car instead – it’s not fair”

“He/she wants to send the kids to private school but I’ve now got to work an extra 10 years to pay for it – it’s not fair”

“How can they afford that house/holiday/new car and we can’t?  – It’s not fair”

Financial planning is about creating a long-term, coherent strategy for you and your family. It is about giving you peace of mind that you are “on track” and doing all the right things with your finances or about trying to change the direction to your finances if you aren’t. It’s about helping you make the most out of the present while also preparing for the future.

The financial planning process could be summarised as:

1. Personal/family goals – itemise the things you and your family want to achieve in life – is it all about the money, or is there a work/life balance to try to plan?

What would constitute a life without regrets?

2. Current position: look at assets, liabilities, income and expenditure as well as other aspects like health and your risk tolerance. Do you have a will in place? Do you have life assurance?

3. Financial analysis: how far away from achieving your goals are you? What would it cost to achieve them?

4. Create a plan: what actions can you take to get you on track?

5. Implement: this is often the stumbling block but if action is needed, there’s no time like the present to get started.

6. Review: things always change so adjustments will be needed – review at least annually.

Yes, families should have sufficient life insurance, have a valid will and make sure that the household’s expenditure is at least partially protected were the breadwinner to be unable to work but beyond that there is no such thing as a one-size-fits-all family financial plan because we all want to lead different lives.

So, the best advice I would give a couple is to be honest with each other about what they want out of the rest of their lives. Write it down. Take each other’s dreams and aspirations seriously.

You can then put a cost, whether a financial cost or a time cost to each of these and you have the beginnings of a financial plan.

Call it the Household Happiness Plan!

Then you can move onto stage two. Speak to a independent financial adviser to make sure your family’s finances are tiptop in 2014.